When couples encounter problems in their relationship, they can sometimes spend years trying to figure out the root of the conflict – without success. When done correctly, Marital Counselling can strengthen the bonds.
Marital Counselling isn’t complex. Essentially, it’s a specialised kind of talking therapy where two people sit down with a counsellor to talk about the way they are relating. Typically, it’s for two people in a romantic relationship. However, it can also be used by any two people wanting to improve their relationship, such as ones who are in long term relationship and one who are engaged to get married.
Marital Counselling exists to help you see clearly what is currently happening in your relationship, to be clear about what you would like to be different, and to enable you to bridge the gap.
In Marital Counselling, you gain new perspectives about each other and the way you relate, and you also learn new ways of being together. Marital Counselling includes “skills work” to help you actually do something different, as well as helping you explore your feelings and thoughts with your partner. It has an appreciative focus as well as exploring difficulties, so be prepared to recall what you love and value about each other, and to look on your partner with kind eyes.
MAJOR CAUSES OF RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
Behavioral Issues – Anger outbursts, emotional volatility, addictions-alcohol, smoking, porn, gambling, can gradually turn into the bigger concerns if left unresolved and can impact the relationship bond deeply
Distorted Communication – Criticism, verbal abuse, harsh, demeaning words or breakdown in communication can create havoc in romantic relationship.
Different Love language – Each individual expresses and experiences love in their own unique ways. A mismatch in love language can leave either or both partners feeling uncared for, neglected and not understood.
Cheating or Infidelity – A betrayal and breach of trust can damage the relationship extensively, however instead of letting it be the end of the relationship, therapy can help using this experience to give the bond a new leash on life. One can also learn to move on if the situation is beyond any repair.
Past Baggage – When personal experiences have not been unpacked and worked on, it seeps into the couple dynamics which therapy can help unravel and explore
Sexual Incompatibility – Differences in libido, frequency of sexual activity, lack of sexual urges, low interest, varying sexual needs can lead to unmet needs leaving partners feeling undesired and disconnected
Conflict Resolution – Inability to convey concerns, shutting down or aggressively attacking partner while bringing up a conflict leads to more emotional damage to a bond leading to build up of resentment and bitterness towards partner
Trauma – External events like loss of a loved one – parent or child, accidents, major injury, financial ruin or internal events like physical, sexual abuse within relationship can suck the life out of a relationship leaving two estranged people in its wake
We are more than happy to give advice on which counselling is most suitable for your needs, depending on your problems. Why not ask us to view your problems and discuss for solution.